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Understanding the Difference: Kids Bullying vs. Being Mean or Rude




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Bullying vs Being Rude

As parents and educators, it's crucial to understand the nuances between kids' behavior, especially when it comes to interactions with their peers. Two terms often used interchangeably are "bullying" and "being mean or rude," but they are different behaviors and have different impacts.


It’s important that parents and children understand the differences, as it can create an unnecessary label for a child that will affect his or her school career. Unfortunately, I see this often and the negative effects it has on the parent and child of both parties.


Bullying is characterized by repeated, intentional, and hurtful behavior towards another child. It involves an imbalance of power, where the bully uses their strength, status, or numbers to control or harm the victim. Bullying can be physical, verbal, or relational (social exclusion or spreading rumors), and it often causes lasting emotional and psychological harm.


On the other hand, being mean or rude refers to isolated incidents of unkind behavior. While hurtful, these actions are not necessarily part of a pattern or intended to cause harm repeatedly. Kids may act mean or rude due to a lack of social skills, frustration, or a desire for attention, but they don't typically seek to dominate or control the victim.


Sometimes it’s hard to distinguish one from the other, especially if you are only hearing it from a 6 or 7 year old. If your child keeps letting you know they are having problems with a particular child, make sure you let the teacher know. Usually that child has not been taught any other behavior other that taking things without asking or may have an older sibling that pushes them around. At this young of an age, that child can be taught how to ask and to be more gentle with friends.


Understanding these differences is crucial for effective intervention. Bullying requires a more comprehensive approach, including intervention strategies, support for the victim, and consequences for the bully. Being mean or rude, however, can often be addressed through teaching empathy, conflict resolution skills, and positive behavior reinforcement.

By recognizing the distinction between bullying and being mean or rude, adults can better support children in developing healthy and respectful relationships with their peers.

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